AUTHOR: BARUWA JORDAN
The Art of Socializing: A Skill Many Are Yet to Possess
Each day goes by, and you can’t help but feel alone—like you're missing something. You find yourself not really connecting. Just a bunch of surface-level “hi”s, gossip-filled hellos, and uncomfortable stares from unfamiliar faces. The feeling that you have a sign on your forehead screaming “I don’t belong here” just multiplies.
Sometimes, it’s not that you don’t talk to people. In fact, people want to get to know you, but something still feels off. There’s a silent cry from the depths of you—a desire for something more. A desire to be heard, to be seen, to be known, acknowledged, and ultimately loved.
Trust me, you are not alone. It’s even worse when you are a transfer or direct entry student and everyone already knows each other. The struggle is real and not talked about enough. So, this is dedicated to you—YOU ARE SEEN. YOU MATTER. YOUR PEOPLE ARE WAITING TO EXPERIENCE YOU.
But don’t just sit and wait for them to find you in your house. Join groups, volunteer a lot, attend conferences and programmes, and network.
The kind of friends you aspire to have—where would they be? Answer that question, and you’ve found your new hangout spot. No one is asking you to lose yourself or become a fake person just to get friends—no. Instead, take a leap out of your comfort zone and watch yourself bloom.
However, as you long for connection—feeling afraid and uncertain—beware of people who might try to take advantage of that. Not everyone deserves access to you, and that’s okay.
So, lift your head up, knowing there’s nothing to be afraid of. Your light is already attracting your people to you, pookie.
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